THE WHITE BLOOD CELL
MANAGING THE NATURAL FORCES OF OPPOSITION THAT EXIST BETWEEN EX-SPOUSES; DATING PARTNERS AND THEIR PARTNER'S CHILDREN; AND STEPPARENTS AND THEIR STEPCHILDREN
Clear boundaries exist between those with biological family connections and those outside the biological connections. The biological connections clearly distinguish those who are "mine"---of my biology---and those who are "not mine"---and not of my biology. Those in a "mine" connection have an insider's loyalty and protection among members.
As white blood cells roam the body, protecting the body from invasive outside biological attacks, children also act as White Blood Cells seeking to protect their own biological connections. Any outsider attempting to insert themselves into the child/parent connection usually find themselves up against children acting like biological white blood cells wanting the outsider out.
In this booklet learn about why there is such natural division in dating and blending families and how to successfully manage the natural work of the White Blood Cell reacting against non-biological family members. This pamphlet will give unique guidance and bring much needed peace among the non-biological family members.
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The White Blood Cell is about making stepparent/stepchild relationships work.
Understanding the White Blood Cell will help you build healthy relationships among all non-biological family members.
Are there problems...
...between stepparents and stepchildren?
...between your dating partner and your children?
...between you and your dating partner's children?
...between former spouses?
Just as white blood cells protect the body from outside foreign matter, children and adults also act as white blood cells, seeking to protect their own biological members. The intrusion of a non-biological, outside person (stepparent) may appear to threaten the child/parent connection.
Biological connections clearly distinguish who is "mine"---of my biology---and who is "not mine"---not of my biology. Members of a "mine" connection share an insider's loyalty and the wish to protect one another. Those who are "not mine" are subject to rejection.
This is why dating and marriage partners usually find themselves facing highly resistant children---children who act like biological white blood cells and attempt to push the outsider away. This is also why some adults seek to push stepchildren away.
Learning how to deal with the actions of the white blood cell in your marriage partner, your children, and even yourself is critical to achieving a successful marriage and blending family.
